What about converting guys?
One of my loyal readers has a question that I thought I'd answer for the masses!
Why don't [you] convert gay guys to bisexuality?! Your hobbies section says converting straight girls to bisexuality. Whatever happened to gay men?! If its possible to convert a heterosexual girl to bisexuality, it must be definately possible to convert a homosexual man! I really think its a great oversight on your part....
Not an oversight at all. :-P
There are several reasons, actually.
1. By having sex with guys, I’d run the risk of getting pregnant. I can play around with females and have an extremely low risk of contracting STDs, and no risk of becoming pregnant. This is not possible on either subject when having sex with a guy.
2. My GF and I have an open relationship so long as other females are involved, with the specific exclusion of males for the most part. Males introduce a different dynamic to our relationship that we elect not to deal with at this point in time.
3. In my estimation, 80% of females have either an overt or latent curiosity about what it would be like to have sex with another female. I’ve learned how to draw on that and bring it to the surface so that it can be played with. Bisexuality in males is much rarer, and almost every male will identify as either strictly heterosexual or homosexual, with little wiggle room for bisexual experimentation. Therefore, it is much easier, IMHO, to draw a straight girl into a sexual relationship with another female than it is to draw a gay man into a relationship with a girl. I highly suspect a gay or bisexual guy would have much better luck drawing “straight” guys into a sexual relationship with a guy than I would with the reverse of that.
4. Right now, in my life, I enjoy the emotional connection that occurs between two females sharing an intimate encounter. Two women connect much easier than a woman and a man do, and there isn’t the power struggle that takes place with sex between a man and a woman when two women have sex.
5. I have a penchant for chasing or seducing “straight” women in that it is much harder to seduce a woman than it is a man (IMO), and I enjoy the “work” involved in the seduction. The chase is half the fun for me. The women can have the luxury of “experimentation” without all of the risk that’s involved when you’re talking about sex between a man and a woman, and after the experience can go back to being “straight” again without the stigma that guys attach to playing around “outside the box” with their sexuality.
6. Bringing a woman to orgasm is far more difficult than it is a guy, and I *so* very much enjoy getting another woman off. It takes a great deal of skill and know-how to apply the right techniques and read the body language of a woman beginning that climb up Mount O and bring it to a successful resolution. To be able to do it and provide her with an incredible orgasm and I *know* they’ve enjoyed it is an ego boost for me. In the vast majority of cases when I’ve been with a woman in her first lesbian experience, I’ve been told that I have given them the most powerful orgasm they’ve ever had. With a guy, literally, you can give them head for a few minutes, get them off, and they’re pretty much done!
I hope all of that makes sense. :?
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Why don't [you] convert gay guys to bisexuality?! Your hobbies section says converting straight girls to bisexuality. Whatever happened to gay men?! If its possible to convert a heterosexual girl to bisexuality, it must be definately possible to convert a homosexual man! I really think its a great oversight on your part....
Not an oversight at all. :-P
There are several reasons, actually.
1. By having sex with guys, I’d run the risk of getting pregnant. I can play around with females and have an extremely low risk of contracting STDs, and no risk of becoming pregnant. This is not possible on either subject when having sex with a guy.
2. My GF and I have an open relationship so long as other females are involved, with the specific exclusion of males for the most part. Males introduce a different dynamic to our relationship that we elect not to deal with at this point in time.
3. In my estimation, 80% of females have either an overt or latent curiosity about what it would be like to have sex with another female. I’ve learned how to draw on that and bring it to the surface so that it can be played with. Bisexuality in males is much rarer, and almost every male will identify as either strictly heterosexual or homosexual, with little wiggle room for bisexual experimentation. Therefore, it is much easier, IMHO, to draw a straight girl into a sexual relationship with another female than it is to draw a gay man into a relationship with a girl. I highly suspect a gay or bisexual guy would have much better luck drawing “straight” guys into a sexual relationship with a guy than I would with the reverse of that.
4. Right now, in my life, I enjoy the emotional connection that occurs between two females sharing an intimate encounter. Two women connect much easier than a woman and a man do, and there isn’t the power struggle that takes place with sex between a man and a woman when two women have sex.
5. I have a penchant for chasing or seducing “straight” women in that it is much harder to seduce a woman than it is a man (IMO), and I enjoy the “work” involved in the seduction. The chase is half the fun for me. The women can have the luxury of “experimentation” without all of the risk that’s involved when you’re talking about sex between a man and a woman, and after the experience can go back to being “straight” again without the stigma that guys attach to playing around “outside the box” with their sexuality.
6. Bringing a woman to orgasm is far more difficult than it is a guy, and I *so* very much enjoy getting another woman off. It takes a great deal of skill and know-how to apply the right techniques and read the body language of a woman beginning that climb up Mount O and bring it to a successful resolution. To be able to do it and provide her with an incredible orgasm and I *know* they’ve enjoyed it is an ego boost for me. In the vast majority of cases when I’ve been with a woman in her first lesbian experience, I’ve been told that I have given them the most powerful orgasm they’ve ever had. With a guy, literally, you can give them head for a few minutes, get them off, and they’re pretty much done!
I hope all of that makes sense. :?
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posted by StripGoddess at 1:01 AM
17 Comments:
stripgoddess . . .
You concluded with the words: "I hope all of that makes sense." -- ha! . . . very little about "sex" ever makes sense! . . . but nevertheless we persist! onward ever onward! :)
Great reasons however i think the biggest one is that NOBODY WANTS TO SEE TWO GUYS DOING EACH OTHER.
LMAO! Well, you could be right. But no one sees me converting girls, either, though!
About point #3, what did you mean by saying a gay guy had a better chance of secuding a straight guy than you would seducing a gay guy? If its something obvious then I'm not getting it.
That's exactly what I'm saying. I obviously don't *know* that that is the case. I merely suspect that it is. ;-)
When seducing women gets old, will you move on to family members and pets?
Is that the best line you could come up with?
Pussy.
obviously "the birdman" doesn't understand or appreciate the fine art of seduction . . . and probably still has a "pet rock". (just kidding "birdman") :)
Your post brings up some interestiing points, and makes me think back to things I learned in college. Specifically, is homosexuality the norm? Maybe heterosexuality is for reproduction and homosexuality is for true passion and love. A lot of people don't think this until they have a same-sex affair -- and I think this holds true for both men and women. As for converting gay guys, well, why would you want to? If anything, try and get straight guys to go bi or gay.
Actually, a film about bestiality is all the rage at Sundance. It's called "Stay" and is about a girl who has sexual urges for her dog.
And by the way minsults reveal a lack of logical skills. Take a philosophy/speaking class. Here's the link to the Sundance film info:
http://www.cinematical.com/2006/01/27/sundance-deals-stay-sells-us-and-intnl-rights/
Thanks for sharing.
Minsults are my way of dealing with people I don't feel like deserve a serious response. ;-)
Actually I found her minsult quite funny rather than hurtful. I disagree and agree with lots of your points so I'll go by the numbers.
1. Ok if your gonna be a sexologist you got to get rid of these cliches. You don't have to have penetration if you have sex with a guy therefor you can have no chance of getting pregnant; plus there's such a thing as condoms and some guys are really good at pulling out or knowing their limits. You might be less succeptable to some STDs when having sex with women but not all of them; I'd argue that you are more likely to get some like herpes and HPV if you practice oral sex, which you do, since you probably spend more time down there and lick more areas than most guys (not me) :) and with a guy those STDs would be more noticeable (if they are not in the dormant phase). Plus I'm sure you don't use an oral dam and so sex with a guy with a condom and no kissing would be safer by the numbers but what fun would that be?
2. Nothing to say here except that there goes any chance of my fantasies ever happening.
3. I agree with this point; it's probably easier to make a straight guy bisexual but who knows everybody is different.
4. I'm glad you enjoy what you are doing but I wouldn't generalise your feelings into being absolute truths. Men and women can have more or less connection than women and women or men and men; it's got to do with the brains more than the genetalia, sure you got the connection of being the same gender and having had some of the same experiences but everybody is different and you can't generalise like that. As for the power struggle, I have trouble understanding what you mean by power. Because when you are going down on a women, you are obviously the one with the power especially when it's their first time; your the one in control. In my experience with having sex with women, the power is usually shared; at one point they are the active component and I'm passive or vice versa or we are both in positions of control over the situation. As I've said before you mustn't have had sex with the right guys cause what the hell are you refering to? :)
5. As if we hadn't noticed. Less risk? refer to part 1 however your right that their is less stigma with being a bisexual women than a bisexual man.
6. Ok, making a guy ejaculate does not mean he had a great or even good orgasm; this is not widely understood not even by men. I understand how giving a women the best orgasm she's ever had can boost your ego (I feel the same way and have been told the same things as you) and seeing how so many guys are so bad at it, it can happen pretty often and I'm sure does very often to you. However bringing a women to orgasm is not hard at all; you should know this. I have often been able to bring women to orgasm with oral, finger or penetrating stimulation; when they were unable, with oral sex, to make me even ejaculate (I think I have a high tolerance since I exercise my kegell muscles) let alone give me a ground shattering orgasm. When I was younger I was slightly jealous of the female orgasm since it seemed so much more powerful than mine plus they could have it over and over again; but since then I've discovered my orgasm, which just like women's is also elusive, I so am no longer jealous. My orgasms vary just as much as a women's and I can ejaculate without being satisfied or be be satisfied without ejaculating; the biggest difference between an amazing one and a boring one is the amount of involuntary spasms that I have. Trust me making a guy ejaculate has nothing to do with giving the guy a good orgasm.
You have so much to learn young one :) as do I, I'm sure.
As to the issue about whether or not homosexuality or heterosexuality being the "norm," if you will recall, Kinsey believe that very few people were specifically homo or heterosexual. The vast majority of people were bisexual to one extent or the other.
My own personal experience with both sexes has led me to conclude that he was correct in his theory.
Oh ya, one last comment. This is about mic's comment; I saw a movie called madame sata (close snough) which was about a famous crossdressing guy who would always be dooled up for mardi gras. In it were some sex scenes between him and some latin guy; both of them were very attractive men and the scenes were really well made filled with passion and lust. Those scenes arroused me deeply much more than the usual cheap love scenes in most movies. When we came out of the theatre the girl who had suggested this film apologised for the amount of gay sex, hinting towards her own digust even though she thought they had cute butts; I told everybody that I thought they had been really good and well placed in the story line.
To conclude I'd been more inclined to agree that nobody wants to admit they like seeing to guys doing each other.
Hey, great answers to what sounded like a light-hearted question, SG. I agree mildly with AddictedToLife that if you're planning to be a sexologist (I haven't read enough of your blog yet to know if that's true) then you'll learn to be more patient with assumptions about sex. And there are a bunch. For instance while I agree it's often easier to get a man off it's not always so, nor is it always that hard to get a woman off. There's a lot of overlooked overlap between genders.
Oh yeah, I've added you to my blogroll. You'll show up next time I rebuild.
Take care,
figleaf
Hey, great answers to what sounded like a light-hearted question, SG. I agree mildly with AddictedToLife that if you're planning to be a sexologist (I haven't read enough of your blog yet to know if that's true) then you'll learn to be more patient with assumptions about sex. And there are a bunch. For instance while I agree it's often easier to get a man off it's not always so, nor is it always that hard to get a woman off. There's a lot of overlooked overlap between genders.
Oh yeah, I've added you to my blogroll. You're an interesting writer. Thanks!
Take care,
figleaf
Welcome to the Strip Club, figleaf! ;-)
Don't read too much into these answers. They were a reply to, as you describe, a lighthearted question, and were done off the cuff.
Believe me, I do not attribute any specifics to anyone or any group when it comes to sex as a general rule. I think you'll see that as I write more and more.
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