Preparing for Your First Anal Sex

Anal sex is one of those "love it or leave it" kind of things for most people, of both sexes. Many people are never able to overcome the horror stories of how much pain it in involves to get to the point of even trying it, let alone enjoying it. Sadly, many are never able to overcome those myths and will never try it because of all of the negative connotations surrounding it.

I was introduced to the pleasures of anal sex at the tender age of 15, and have been hooked ever since. I had such an incredibly intense orgasm from it (literally almost passing out from it), that I was instantly mesmerized by the feelings I got and it became a permanent addition to my sexual repertoire. The secret, as far as I am concerned, is in preparing correctly for it. I "practiced" as I outline below - that is the way I was taught to prepare myself for my first butt sex. I have explained this to many other girls (and a couple of guys) who've used it and *all* of them who've used it as written have reported favorable results.

What is it about anal that makes it so wonderful? Well, there are several reasons. Of course, the taboo nature of it makes it psychologically appealing for a lot of people. However, the best reason is that, if done correctly, it will provide you with some intense orgasmic exctasy. The anus is a pair of muscles that are interconnected with the PC muscles - those lovely lower pelvic muscles that are responsible for your orgasmic contractions. When you stimulate the anal muscles in conjunction with your PC-muscle orgasm, you will intensify your orgasm immensely. Don't believe me? Next time you masturbate, stick your little finger into your asshole about an inch (I promise, no one will know unless *you* tell them). As you begin to cum, you will feel the contractions of your asshole around your finger. Now, think about how it might feel if you are being penetrated anally at the same time you hit your O. That flexing and contracting of the anus during that orgasm is going to magnify it for most people.

Once you've gotten used to being penetrated anally, and can learn to control your PC muscles while you masturbate, and he's fucking you in the ass, you can work on coordinating the timing of your PC muscle contractions with the rhythm of his thrusts. Guys like anal because of the tightness it involves. Once you add the ability to control the contractions of your asshole to squeeze down on his cock, and literally worship it with your ass, the both of you will be in for some majorly intense sex.

So, how would I recommend that you prepare yourself for that first anal penetration? Read on.

BEFORE YOU BEGIN: A couple of notes: The rectum can accomodate about 7 inches without any problem, but different people will have different "limits". There is normally not any significant amount of feces in the rectum except when you actually have to go to the bathroom. You should always clean your back end before doing anything related to anal sex. Having said that, though, there is still the possiblity that when something that has been in your butt comes out, it may have some small amount of fecal material on it. If it does, wipe it off - it's that simple. Finally, you may occasionally hear some misinformation about anal sex leading to inability to have normal bowel movements or "hold stuff in" - this is absolute bullshit. Think about it - the anus is a muscle - exercising it will only strengthen it if anything. Note that there are really two distinct muscles in the anus - the exterior one you can control, and the interior one, which is an involuntary muscle. The interior one is the one that gives the most trouble when doing anal. The key is to learn to relax it and get it accustomed to having something going *in*.

LUBRICATION: The anus and rectum have no natural lubrication of their own, unlike your vagina. Therefore, one of the keys to success with anal penetration is lubrication! Use it!

MOST IMPORTANT - you HAVE to get into the mindset that you are going to enjoy being fucked in the ass. You will have problems enjoying it as much as you could if you just cannot get over the fact that anal sex is dirty, taboo, or bad for your health, etc. The anus is one of the most nerve intensive area of your body, and anal play can add SO MUCH to your sex life if you just let it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a girl (or guy) who doesn't like anal sex in my opinion, I just think that it adds so much to the "sex" experience that it should be used for pleasure just like oral and vaginal sex. I mean, why not? What is there to lose?

PRACTICING

First off, you have to get somewhere where you won't be disturbed. Like in your house when others aren't there and you won't be interrupted for a good period of time.

Get something to use as lube, preferably KY or Astroglide, but you can use olive oil or other light oil if you don't have or can't get anything else.

Start by relaxing you anus and playing with it a little bit to spread the lube and get used to the sensation of something "being there". When you're ready, insert ONE lubed finger into your asshole and see how it feels. Push it slowly as far in as you can and once your butt is used to it, start sliding it in and out like a cock would do if it were in there.

Once you are comfortable with one finger in your ass, insert a second one (be sure and lube it up) and do the same routine, getting to the point where you can "fuck" your own ass with two fingers. Then, the same thing with three fingers, and if you're really horny or want to go for it all, you can even try four.

From this you can move to using maybe a banana, cucumber or other suitable penis substitute. Just don't use anything short (that might accidentally pop inside), or anything made of glass. I wouldn't use anything made out of wood either! LOL! I'd suggest covering whatever you use with a condom.

Do this several times over the course of a period of time - whatever you are comfortable with. The point of this is that YOU are the one in control of the entire process, you can go at your own speed, insert things as far as you want them to go, and move to larger objects as you feel you can handle.

Once you've done this and gotten used to the sensation of something entering your butt, then anal sex should be a LOT easier for you once you get ready to do it with a guy.

When it finally comes time to do it with a guy (or a girl with a strap-on), make sure he understands that YOU are the one in control and YOU get to decide when, how far in, how fast, etc. He needs to know that if he gets to rough with it, it may be the last time he gets in your butt.

Make sure you use lots of lube. YOU lube up your asshole, sticking your finger(s) inside, and you or he can lube up his dick. Most people use a condom and that is highly recommended if you are not 100% comfortable that the guy is clean (free from STDs, etc.).

When it is time for him to enter you, I have found the best position for first time anal is the doggy position, with him being still and allowing you to back onto his cock. This allows you to be the one that decides how far, how fast, how deep, etc. An alternative is to use the spoon position, but to me this makes your movement a little harder because both of you are resting on the bed.

If it is still too painful to do, try the process some more over a period of time and try to do it again. Of course, you may eventually reach a point where you finally decide anal sex is just not for you. And that's fine, as well.

ILLUSTRATIONS:

Anal in the Doggy Position:













Anal in a spooning position:








Closeup of Anal in the Spooning position:

The Reverse Cowgirl will give you some seriously deep anal penetration. Not recommended for beginners:

Once you get the hang of it, I will almost guarantee you that you will enjoy anal sex. Please let me know how your practice goes, and whether or not this works out for you. I am always curious as to how this works for others.

I guess the next tasty item on my list of things to discuss is eating ass! That's right, rimming, analingus, whatever you choose to call it. That, too, can be enjoyable if done the right way.

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